Marlie is so hard to predict.That's one of the things I love about her. Her personality, while frequently challenging, is quite amazing. She is bright, sweet, affectionate, outgoing, fearless, feisty, resourceful, witty, full of energy, funny, and unpredictable! One minute she is pushing my last button and the next she is brings me a pillow. Where did this child come from?
Her newest phrases are "oh no! what happened?!" and referring to herself in the third person, "Marlie did that." She has become very interested in family units and always wants to know where the mommy and daddy are when she sees an animal or child by itself. She is also becoming a serious vandal. She tears her board books in half and breaks her toys on purpose. She writes on the walls and furniture and is just an all-around destructive force. Her destruction is not limited to her own things either. She doesn't do it while in the throws of a tantrum or fit. She just sits there quietly ripping up stuff. It's kind of disturbing. I'm starting to wonder if this is normal.
Someone asked me if I had created a baby registry for chocolate chip. I wasn't planning on it (or a baby shower) because we did had one just two years ago. I don't know what the rules are. What do you say?
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Hard call on the shower. I think it is great if you can have something special for the new baby to be, maybe it doesn't need to be traditional though, how about a food shower? Everyone brings a meal to freeze in your freezer for after the baby comes, less work for you. Diaper showers are good too, especially if you are using disposables. Regardless, enjoy. :)
Some people want to throw a shower for all babies, first in line or not. And let them. :) Others might just shower you with gifts at its arrival. I never did register for another of my "other" babies besides the first, we had everything we needed and had been so blessed the first time around I didn't feel right doing so.
As for Marlie's antics...hilarious. I feel like I was reading about my Owen. My first, Turner, did NONE of these things, but Owen (and Evelyn is starting to follow suit) is constantly testing and loving, whining and laughing. It's exhausting trying NOT to beat him while trying to follow his energy highs. I *think* it might be normal, but ugh. I don't know either? :)
My son was destructive like that. He ruined SO MANY books. He ate a lot of them LOL and the others he would tear.
I think maybe in order to allow those people who want to help you, you could create small registry with absolute must-haves and a few bigger items just in case someone wants to do that for you. My kids are 4 years apart and I didn't do one, but also no one asked me if I had.
I love that Marlie has her own personality;-) beautiful thing really! I heard you weren't suppose to have a second baby shower according to Kim of Housewives of Atlanta but I don't know what the actual ettiquette is...I say do what you want to do:-)
If you know people are going to be buying you gifts, I say do it. Create a registry, I mean.
And yes, all that destruction is absolutely 100% normal! It's not the Babby's thing, but lots of toddlers use destruction rather than creation as a means of exerting independence and control over their environments. It's nothing to worry about... as long as you can catch her before she turns your wall into modern art!
Yes it is normal. I'm not sure if that's comforting or not. Deaglan still surprises me daily and just when I'm ready to google "anti-social behaviour" he too does something sweet and unexpected.
Thanks for the lovely comment on my post.
I'm not sure how normal it is to have a shower for your second, sorry. I had one for my second, but didn't have one for my first and that was 18 years ago, so I really have no idea what current etiquette is. Sorry to hear that Marlie is being so destructive. I still have to keep markers and pens out of reach, else Miss V will "decorate". Strangely, she doesn't do this with crayons or pencils anymore.
Congrats on the soon new addition! On baby showers I think that if they are the same sex and you know that the mom still has alot of things from the 1st child (onesies, diaper genie, swingset, bellytime rug, etc.) then other than maybe dropping off a case of diapers and some fresh new onesies I wouldn't hold another shower so soon after the other. But a different gender warrants another full shower for sure.
My best, Lynn
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